tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post17914522024752490..comments2024-03-26T04:43:26.948-07:00Comments on The Business/Judo of Life: This I believe: valuesDr. AnnMariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13741371839260099343noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-67137377913300035422016-10-01T12:34:10.951-07:002016-10-01T12:34:10.951-07:00Wonderful post!
Like Mandy, I also enjoy your 5 ...Wonderful post! <br /><br />Like Mandy, I also enjoy your 5 minutes of free advice videos.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11633347892404612234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-76050333517134549162016-09-01T21:36:59.526-07:002016-09-01T21:36:59.526-07:00Mrs. De Mars, I discovered your youtube advice vid...Mrs. De Mars, I discovered your youtube advice videos a couple days ago, and I would be absolutely surprised if you aren't either ENTJ or INTJ! Regardless, they are wonderful. A lot of heart there, even if some people won't see it through the pragmatism. I am watching all of them you have to offer. Love them, look forward to more.mandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-85442176755015293342016-08-29T20:48:02.695-07:002016-08-29T20:48:02.695-07:00^ Anonymous, I haven't experienced what it'...^ Anonymous, I haven't experienced what it's like to have a birth defect, and I'm sorry that you suffered with that. I hope you don't mind my commenting on your post. People are by nature judgemental (schemas, heuristics, other psychological stuff that makes life quicker and easier for people to process things that are "other"). Which really sucks. I think it's because it not only takes more effort to think critically, but that few people are even taught how to do so. Your post makes me think of two things: one, we are not defined by our constraints themselves; rather, we are how we respond to those constraints, even knowing that others have no idea how hard it is, or how lonely. And they may never understand, which has nothing to do with us. That's independent of our person. The second thought was about one of the central tenets of Buddhism: knowledge is suffering. That statement is two-fold to me. Through our own suffering we acquire what is painful knowledge of hardship for us, yet we gain higher compassion for others because of this. Now I feel like Will Farrell in Old School when he woke up during the debate while spouting off some Jeopardy-type stuff. Brutal honesty can be a defense mechanism, but we all gotta cope somehow. Sorry for the ramble. It's in my nature. Hope life is treating you well. :)mandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-48020199510037927442016-08-28T18:24:25.534-07:002016-08-28T18:24:25.534-07:00Interesting... I grew up between families, I had s...Interesting... I grew up between families, I had somewhat of a mixed upbringing, I had everything I ever wanted and yet I had nothing. I was also born with a birth defect, people judged me because of this, I learned very quickly how cruel people could be because you were different, coincidentally I also learned an incredible amount of respect for others with birth defects.<br /><br />I also learned to be brutally honest with people... old quote goes something like "I'd rather be an honest asshole than a fucking liar." pardon the language.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-22249847100713824832016-08-23T21:44:33.679-07:002016-08-23T21:44:33.679-07:00Holy sh*t. Pardon my french. You aren't my mom...Holy sh*t. Pardon my french. You aren't my mom, but this post is just like things she'd say, only she has no confidence. My dad died when I was little, so I have tried to find meaning in doing what I think he might want, what would make him happy, or what would impress my mom. Now my husband in in charge of his family's business and so incredibly scared that he's going to ruin it. I tell him "Ok, what if? You fold and die? Is your life and being tied to this? Will you turn into ash like Voldemort if it doesn't work?" No, you get up and move on. Life doesn't stop for anyone, and that's a really hard and personal lesson.<br /><br />P.S. My fave part was about the small kindnesses. That's kind of all we have, are our moments. Be kind :) mandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-79624081721930385562016-08-23T15:11:22.247-07:002016-08-23T15:11:22.247-07:00These values are a result of the culture in which ...These values are a result of the culture in which you were raised and the time in human history at which you were raised. If you had been born into a hardliner Islamic community, or in the jungles of deepest, darkest africa those values would be quite different, and literally, worlds apart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com