tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post3310496190201733770..comments2024-03-26T04:43:26.948-07:00Comments on The Business/Judo of Life: Life of a LieDr. AnnMariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13741371839260099343noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-54420509385408326692015-03-05T18:35:12.680-08:002015-03-05T18:35:12.680-08:00It took me 10-years to earn my black sash in Kung ...It took me 10-years to earn my black sash in Kung Fu and it wasn't easy. Each sash test was 7-hours long on a Saturday morning. It was repeating the forms we learned over-and-over again and when I got to high yellow sash I had to spar with two black belts while exhausted after 7-hours. When I got to orange sash, I had to teach the little dragons class for a certain numbers of hours before I could even take the next test. <br /><br />Contrary to the criticisms of Kung Fu by MMA, we do spar full contact. Kung Fu has its own tournaments and championships just like Muay Thai, Judo, Taekwondo, and Boxing have their own respective tournaments. We have everything MMA has except a cage or a ring. We fight on a platform called a "Lei Tai" and we strike, throw, slam, punch, kick, knee, elbow, trap palm strikes, and all manner of striking. The tournaments were very tough and I would never want anyone with only a year of training to enter them. I'd prefer if they entered Olympic level Judo. At least then if they get thrown once and manage to roll with the motion, the fight would be over. In Kung Fu the fight doesn't stop after one throw or one pin. If it goes to the ground the competitors wrestle and ground-and-pound until the referee breaks it up, then the ref directs them to the middle of the stage and they start striking again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-67843105652337033212015-02-28T09:15:22.735-08:002015-02-28T09:15:22.735-08:00Some people are smart and use lies as a way to pre...Some people are smart and use lies as a way to prey on people's expectations. In effect, they employ a form a reverse-psychology just in case. By toying with people's perceptions of them, their enemies are confused and when they're confused, they cannot be prepared. Niccolo Machiavelli in the West and Sun Tzu in the East both wrote the books on deceptive warfare. Honesty may be virtuous, but it's not always effective. Deception, provided that it's successful, is always effective. As Sun Tzu once wrote "if you are weak, look strong; if you are strong, look weak", some people just choose to look weak by pretending to be the weak looking strong. <br /><br />Having credible credentials may also lead to self-deception. I've known some world champion kickboxers who lost a bar fight and ended up with a nasty scar across their face made by a knife attack. They almost lost their lives to someone who probably wouldn't last 5-seconds in the ring with them, but why? Because they let their heads fill up with their previous accomplishments and were caught off-guard in a crucial moment. Sometimes it's not always about who's bigger, stronger, and well-trained. Sometimes, it's the one who's willing to do the most. Sports will not prepare you for this. Normally, most instructors whether it be Judo, Kickboxing, Muay Thai, or whatever have never been in a real fight and know nothing about the real world. Sure, some of them may have been in one or two, but who were they against? A bunch of people who couldn't punch their way out of a paper bag.<br /><br />The need to brag is a way of guarding oneself against criticism. It's a continuation of a Western tradition of piousness that dates back to the Middle Ages with petty competition among the noble classes. I have found that most people who measure their significance by a degree or by credentials are some of the most insecure people around. They need to feel special by comparing themselves to others, because they can't find genuine self-worth.<br /><br />As someone who's accomplished what I want to accomplish in life, I understand the hustle it takes to get the top. It's not pretty and you don't look pretty doing it. The people who took the safe route always jump on you when you're going through the hardest times. That guy who you knew in high school or college who thought you were crazy for your idea, your brother-in-law or sister-in-law who always gives you hard time every time they see you about your choices is insecure and petty. They want to compete with you because they're uncertain of their own life choices. They'll kick you while you're down until you're six-feet under. I told myself that I was never going to be like them when I succeed. After all, if their lives are SO good, then why are they so focused on me? Then, when you succeed, they feel like idiots so they cover it up by acting like it was their idea or that they were trying to help. "I was just messing with you because I knew it would motivate you, but I always believed in you," they use to justify themselves. <br /><br />I don't care if people lie as long as they plan on making those lies a reality and actively work at it. If someone wants to fake it until they make it, I let them have it. In my opinion, the petty culture of our day-and-age makes it justifiable. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-79379986538371901732015-02-11T21:39:48.056-08:002015-02-11T21:39:48.056-08:00Anonymous -
It's not how long they took to ear...Anonymous -<br />It's not how long they took to earn a black belt, it is what they know. I'd be very skeptical of anyone who earned a black belt in a year. It took Ronda 5 years. It took me 8, including a year in Japan. I wonder, how great is that person that it only took a year?Dr. AnnMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13741371839260099343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-41869820625457086272015-02-08T05:59:42.263-08:002015-02-08T05:59:42.263-08:00The first part of this post reminded me of the Kod...The first part of this post reminded me of the Kodokan Judo Institute. Some people label it a "McDojo" because they advertise a program in which a black belt may be attained within one year. This is true and possible but it isn't easy or simple by any means.<br /><br />I'm just curious, would you consider a student who achieved their 1st degree black belt at the Kodokan in one year as equal to a student who earned their 1st degree black belt attending their hometown dojo for 4 years?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-50491135185789998292015-02-08T04:21:43.863-08:002015-02-08T04:21:43.863-08:00Some people are born to lieSome people are born to lieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02943012225634604217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-23854836088989633502015-02-07T15:44:39.043-08:002015-02-07T15:44:39.043-08:00And people wonder why so many of us tend to leave ...And people wonder why so many of us tend to leave the population centers, strip off the layers of social monotony and embrace the equanimity of solitude. This is true wisdom.mike ripplenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-16464653499051791132015-02-07T09:15:13.297-08:002015-02-07T09:15:13.297-08:00Outstanding post and right on point.Outstanding post and right on point.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-43954353668414417252015-02-07T05:11:17.980-08:002015-02-07T05:11:17.980-08:00How far does the rabbit hole go with pathological ...How far does the rabbit hole go with pathological liars?<br /><br />Maybe this far: <br /><br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jean-Claude_Romand<br /><br />That is, live a lie and kill your entire family when threatened with discovery. <br /><br />I don't mean to make a slippery slope argument but to me this is the natural end point of a narcissistic pathological lying tendency and a good thing to keep in your mind when you start peeling back the layers on someone's fake {startup career, PhD, 9th degree black belt, ...}.Geoff Langdalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16627343305090330199noreply@blogger.com