tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post468353159925805452..comments2024-03-26T04:43:26.948-07:00Comments on The Business/Judo of Life: Failing to Appease the Judo GodsDr. AnnMariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13741371839260099343noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-59516237177446446342008-09-27T22:22:00.000-07:002008-09-27T22:22:00.000-07:00Okay, back from the fair (-:We live in a pretty af...Okay, back from the fair (-:<BR/><BR/>We live in a pretty affluent community as well. Short version - my ten-year-old and all of her friends have a life that would have seemed straight out of a fairy tale to me. I was going to write a blog on the fair but I think you have inspired me to write one about why I make my daughter do judo.Dr. AnnMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13741371839260099343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-69724847742598054522008-09-27T21:15:00.000-07:002008-09-27T21:15:00.000-07:00I agree with anonymous. Many parents, not just ric...I agree with anonymous. Many parents, not just rich but also upper middle class, have their kids involved in way too much. I'm a firm believer kids need non-structured down time built into their week. I just talked to an acquaintance of mine that has his two daughters in piano, dance, soccer, and special language classes...all at the same time. When can kids involved in so much have any downtime just to mess around? Kids always involved in supervised structured activities, in my opinion, have a hard time organizing "fun" on their own. For example, when I was a boy me and my frieds would always organize a game of stickball or go down to the park and start up a game of baseball or soccer. Maybe its just were I live, but (with the exeption of basketball) I never see any groups of 12 year olds playing a team sport without some kind of adults sitting there telling them what to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-50486568344335960992008-09-27T20:52:00.000-07:002008-09-27T20:52:00.000-07:00From, my personal experience I always appreciate w...From, my personal experience I always appreciate winning or getting a medal even if it is a local tournament because I lost several of my matches during the first 3 years. Everyone had at least 4 years of judo ahead of me.I do understand your feelings regarding that there is a generation of spoiled brats. That Don't value hard work.Carlos Grañahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839413710354685161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-40366397859852517822008-09-27T20:49:00.000-07:002008-09-27T20:49:00.000-07:00Motivation well kids also like to travel. If that ...Motivation well kids also like to travel. If that helps keep at a lot of our kids involvedCarlos Grañahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839413710354685161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-46262779414755848722008-09-27T19:45:00.000-07:002008-09-27T19:45:00.000-07:00Anonymous,After reading you response to my respons...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>After reading you response to my response to your original post I feel I must apologize to you as I did misinterpret your feelings toward the recreational judo player. <BR/><BR/>In brief, I walked into one too many dojo where it was made immediately clear to me that the recreational player (defined in those dojo as: one who wants to learn how to throw people and grapple with people and improve their health but isn't all that interested in adding to my glory as their instructor by competing every Saturday).<BR/><BR/>You see, I know there is a competition component to judo and I'll sell tickets and work the concession stand and the scoreboard to support it, but I expect recipricol (sp) respect and attention to the way I want to express judo.<BR/><BR/>Again, if this is not how you view the recreational judoka, my heartfelt apologies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-15765443655406364582008-09-27T15:15:00.000-07:002008-09-27T15:15:00.000-07:00George, I don't understand your point. If you're n...George, I don't understand your point. If you're not wealthy, nor have you been, nor do you coach a club with wealthy kids, I'm sorry, but I just don't know what you're trying to say.<BR/><BR/>I also don't understand why you're taking offense to my question. I have nothing against recreational clubs. It just doesn't happen to be my goal for MY club. That's all. I'm a former competitor, and over the years, always enjoyed having a team to coach. But in the past decade, my community has changed, and as the wealth grew, I noticed the kids changed, and not for the better.<BR/><BR/>I don't mean to imply that I have anything against people who have money. I do pretty well financially in my (non judo) full time job. I just mean that I have a problem with parents who have a lot of money but don't teach their children the value of it, or what hard work is.<BR/><BR/>Dr. DeMars, do you have any advice for me and my club? Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-14353640319737577632008-09-27T10:56:00.000-07:002008-09-27T10:56:00.000-07:00anonymous said..."How can I motivate these kids? O...anonymous said...<BR/>"How can I motivate these kids? Or are they so spoiled by their wealthy families that I have to accept that we'll be nothing more than a recreational club with no competitors?"<BR/><BR/>I started judo at the age of 52. I can assure you my family wasn't (and I am not) wealthy and I doubt that since I was raised in a home where the father thought his every duty to his son was fullfilled if there were three hot meals on the table every day and a roof over his head and I don't like the way you say "recreational."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-9187281084021103252008-09-27T08:26:00.000-07:002008-09-27T08:26:00.000-07:00SIX hours of judo a week? Consider yourself lucky...SIX hours of judo a week? Consider yourself lucky. Here's my problem, and if you can give me any advice, I'd appreciate it!<BR/><BR/>I'm an instructor and can't even get the kids to come twice a week! Forget tournaments. Nobody wants to go. They tell me they can't go because they have a "sleep over" or are going "skiing."<BR/><BR/>I teach in a very wealthy area. The kids have way too many activities and too many material things. They get everything handed to them, so they don't understand what it is to work for something. <BR/><BR/>They're also used to getting handed a trophy for just showing up. They think they're entitled. Winning means nothing to them. They don't care. <BR/><BR/>How can I motivate these kids? Or are they so spoiled by their wealthy families that I have to accept that we'll be nothing more than a recreational club with no competitors?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192186541955038172.post-32456751635335989642008-09-27T07:31:00.000-07:002008-09-27T07:31:00.000-07:00From what I've read. Children under the age of 12....From what I've read. Children under the age of 12. Must do different sports to develop different basic motor skills. Once, They have reached the age of 12 you can then begin to specialized them in a sport. Doing this before, limits the development of their skills.Carlos Grañahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839413710354685161noreply@blogger.com