Many people can't let go of the past because they feel that there should be JUSTICE, DAMN IT! This almost always boils down to them wanting someone else to be different in some way.
"Advice # 2: Don't let your happiness be determined by other people."
They want their dad who was an alcoholic, their spouse who filed for divorce, the parent who left - to pay, to feel just as bad, it's only FAIR!
It reminds me of a line from Labyrinth, where the girl says
"That's not fair!"
and the Goblin King answers,
"You say that so often, I wonder what your basis for comparison is?"To take another line from Labyrinth, how she defeats the Goblin King at the end is to tell him,
"You have no power over me!"
As long as you continue to be concerned whether someone feels sorry for what they did, misses you, comes crawling back or whatever you think it would take, you're giving people from your past power over your present.
Those people already have the worst punishment that there is - they have to wake up in the morning and be them.
There are some people in life who have treated me pretty badly, and if tomorrow morning, I woke up as one of them instead of me, you could hear me screaming all the way to New Jersey (which is not in Canada, FYI),
"NO-O-O-O !"
If you don't feel that way, then it's time for you to change your life. I have always strongly felt
"Advice # 3: Success is the best revenge."
It will probably grate on the people who openly or secretly wish you ill that you are having a great life. They'll wish they hadn't been such jerks to you back in the day so you would hang out with them now. Even if they don't think about you at all, you're still having a great life. There is no downside to this strategy.
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I couldn't agree with you more. Hanging on to hurt, anger and disappointment is like hanging on to junk you don't need. It may seem like it doesn't cost you anything and it may seem like it doesn't take up much space in your brain, but you'll notice how much roomier your life is the moment you let go of it.
ReplyDeleteBest piece of advice ever. It goes along with my mantra, which is "YOU are the only person who can make YOU happy". Even when something goes wrong and the fault isn't yours, and you can't change what happened, and somebody else is to blame...you still have the power to react to that situation. You can decide if it's going to make you miserable or stronger.
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