Every superhero had something special - Spiderman got bitten by a radioactive spider. Superman was born on another planet. Batman had a billion dollars to build a secret lair. People are waiting to get hit by the blue light that makes them a winner.
Here is the bad news, young people. There is no blue light or radioactive spider. There's just you.
Here is the good news. That's enough.
I'm going to buy Chael Sonnen's book and read it for the sole reason that it contains this quote.
An old wrestling coach of mine once told me something brilliant, and it applies to every fight I've won and, sadly, every fight that I've lost: "Chael, you can tell when a guy breaks." And you can, even (nay, especially) when it's you.
That is totally true. I've NEVER lost a fight because I've given up, and as a result, I've lost very, very few fights. I've beaten plenty of people who had better technique, better coaching, were better liked by the crowd and the referees, had more international experience, more training partners, better training facilities, were bigger, stronger, faster. In short, I've won lots of matches that I should have lost.
One reason many of those people lost is that they just didn't care about winning as much as I did. That doesn't make them lazy or cowards. It just makes them different from me. My lovely daughter, Julia, didn't care that much about winning in judo but she loves doing stunts on the trapeze, which you couldn't get me to do for a million dollars. I'm afraid of heights.
If you DO care about winning down to your soul, your odds of winning are dramatically greater. As my friend, Bruce Toups says,
"It's all about the want-to "
Fighting is hard. It hurts sometimes and it requires your 100% undivided attention. You can't be wondering what the crowd, your coach or your friends are thinking of your performance. You can't worry about that stupid mistake you made in the first minute of the match. You can't, in the middle of a match, think, even subconsciously, that this is too hard, it hurts and why the hell are you doing this.
Decide that you are going to win. This isn't something you do once. It is something you do every day when you wake up and go running, no matter how much you want to stay in bed. It's something you do every second in a match.
After all of that training, though, in the middle of the match, you need to have that voice screaming in your head and your heart
You are NOT going to beat me!
It's there. Believe me, it's there if you care enough to listen.
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