Photo courtesy of Hans Gutknecht
I was talking about someone I worked with and my niece, Samantha, exclaimed,
"No, that person is a 'yes-butter'. You know, the kind of person who when you give them an answer to a problem, they immediately come back with, 'Yes, but'".
The examples we were talking about came from work. One person could not find a reference source for a grant we were supposed to be doing. It was not in the university library and could not be received from inter-library loan before the deadline. Helpful person that I am, I sent a link to a source where it could be read on-line. The person emailed me back,
"Yes, but that won't work for me because I need to be able to high-light what I read."
Now, if you are reading this don't even start with explaining that you can print it off and then high-light it or that you could copy and paste it into Word and high-light it on line. No, because these people always come back with,
"Yes, but I don't have a printer"
Or some other excuse. The appropriate answer is,
"Are you fucking kidding me? I told you how to get it immediately and for free and you still have a problem?"
The same is true of judo and other martial arts. Often people will ask me how they can get better and my answer is,
"Practice more often. Practice harder and with better people."
They will respond,
"Yes, but my club only works out two days a week and I am the baddest, toughest, mojo-est person there."
My answer is,
"Then practice at other other clubs."
To which they respond,
"Yes, but I don't know which clubs would be best."
My answer is to give them the names and addresses of some clubs I could highly recommend. To which they respond,
"Yes, but my only free time between work, my current club, my toenail polishing lessons and Vampire Diaries is on Tuesdays from 2 to 3 a.m."
Samantha (wise beyond her years), commented,
"It's like a saying I heard. If you want it bad enough you'll find a way. If not, you'll find an excuse."
What many people want is not an answer. They want magic. They want to know how they can get better results without doing anything differently. From now on, when someone asks me how they can get better at martial arts I'm going to say,
"Just buy our book, Winning on the Ground and read it. You don't even need to read it. Just buy it and you'll be better. It's magic."